C O M P L I C A T I N G

okay.

this has been on my mind frustrating me a lot lately. 

people have to over complicate things.

so much.

life is simple. 

it really is. 

you don't need to decode everything.

guys do it.

girls do it. 

i love my friends

but they are always trying to decode everything. 

i am a go with the flow girl

if one thing doesn't work out.

try something else.

eventually something will work out. 

that's what happened in high school

i didn't make cheer in high school

so i went to macs

i didn't make any leadership positions at alta

so i went to CC to see what i could do.

i became HOSA and ASL president. 

i didn't make PLT at alta

i went to CC didn't make it 1st semester

didn't give up until i did make it 2nd semester.

you can't read into something

because you didn't make it

that you suck or aren't good enough.

it just wasn't right for you. 

same thing with relationships.

they don't work out for reasons

and they do work out for reasons.

you don't have to read so much into it.

if you like them.

act like it.

if you don't.

let them know.

don't lead people on. 

girls:

when guys don't act like they like you

or ask you out every night

or can't hang out one night.

they might be shy 

they might have another girl they like

they may like you

how are you going to find out? 

hanging out with them

asking the guys on a date

(it's not their job to do everything..

don't be so stuck up)

being friends with them

you don't have to decide if you like a guy

the first date,

or day hanging out, 

or the first time you meet them. 

so don't think so much about it. 

go for it. 

you never know what could happen

it might be good

great everything worked out

it might end horribly,

great now you're smarter.

guys:

if a girl doesn't show interest

she might think you like the chase

she might not like you

she might have another guy

ask her out.

talk to her.

take her on a date. 

don't be weird.

relationships should be friendships first

and people are forgetting that. 

 don't try and skip steps.

be friends

date

go out

get engaged/break up

be happily married/move on

don't go out

date/create friendship

and get engaged the next week.

kay? 

people stop making relationships 

so hard and confusing. 

if you both like each other 

you don't have to be dating

if you don't like each other

you can still be friends.

if you despise each other

don't be friends

its simple honestly. 

you don't have to read into everything the other person does

oh my gosh he touched my leg

we are getting married.

no stop. 

oh my gosh we cuddled

we are gonna be dating

oh my gosh he hasn't talked to me after we went out

great? text him. relationships involve two people.

girls

guys don't always have to make the first move in everything

step up. 

stop thinking you're entitled

no guys are gonna wanna date you if you are so stuck up

yeah chivalry is nice

but the road works both ways

they can't read your mind.

get off your couch talking about it

get up

speak up.

make a move. 

guys

so many girls are scared to ask guys out

(don't know why? i never have had that problem)

ask girls out. 

hang out with girls.

be friends with girls.

not all girls suck.

not all girls are the same.

date around to see what you like. 

girls love dates

girls love boys.

put two and two together.

everyone stop complicating things.

stop thinking there is a hidden meaning in everything

someone does.

maybe they couldn't hang out because

they had a prior plan 

and you aren't their main concern.

we are all in college 

working towards a degree.

we all have different hobbies that mean a lot to us.

just because they have to leave you

in the middle of hanging out doesn't mean they don't like you

it means they have something else they need to do

things come up. 

be understanding. 

get out in the world peeps.

you're killing me.

xoxo jordie